I'm Cheating

So today one of my girlfriends called and said she needed me to go to Chicago with her for a weekend. I ask why and to cut a long story short she wants to "sow her oats" before she gets married. In my opinion she has a good man. He has been a father to her 6yr old since he was 2 and he goes above and beyond the call of duty. Well according to her when they first started dating 4yrs ago he cheated and she has been holding on to it. She seems to think this little get back will help her get over it.
I advised her not to do it. I dont think cheating now is the answer and also if she aint over it by now she would never be over it and maybe she shouldnt marry him. I wouldnt be any kind of friend if I just said yeah girl lets go and I helped her cheat now would I?
Then I sit down to watch Dr. Phil someone told me to dvr. This man had a wife and a girlfriend. For 5years he had them both,they know about each other and they both want him. The girlfriend was a long distance relationship and moved to be closer. This asshole suggested she buy the house next door to his. He told the girlfriend he and his wife lived as roomates and as soon as he got her through school he was gonna leave to be with her. He then asked his wife for an open marriage so his kids wouldnt suffer the effects of divorce. She actually thought about considering it.
His reasoning for the affair was his wife slacked off and he wasnt getting what he needed at home and hes afraid if he quits the girlfriend his wife will go back to the way she was. His wife actually stepped her game up when she caught him cheating. This man blamed everyone but himself for this affair. Sad thing is both women are sitting by waiting for him to make a decision because they both love him.
This is a prime example of the 80/20 rule. We all know the rule but for those who dont let me explain. In a relationship/marriage you only get about 80% of your needs met. So when someone comes along offering what you aint getting at home 20% it looks pretty good, but all u usually end up with is 20%. You have essentially traded 80% for 20% and your a jack ass for that.
If I was his wife I woulda packed his shit up and sent him to be with his 20% I personally think she suffers from low self esteem. They both do! What confident woman would settle for only half a husband? What confident woman would be content to play second fiddle to a mans wife? Hes sleeping with both of them unprotected so you know what that means? Both women have essentially slept with eachother!!! If thats not enough to make them see the light I doubt anything will make them see.
Immediately after watching this I felt the urge to call my significant other. I needed to tell him I appreciate him being the man he is simply because there are not alot of good men left out there. Even with us being long distance and spending roughly 5days together a month I never wonder what hes doing and who he is with. It is so nice to know he only has eyes for me. In a time when nothing is sacred anymore its good to know I can count on him to do right by me.
I feel really bad for the women who know their man is cheating and stay with him. Pussy makes the world go round. If women would stop underestimating the power of the pussy maybe these men would act better. I guarantee if u tell a man he cant get none without std test having a steady job or whatever he would take care of business. As long as they know they can get away with it they will. Im not gonna say men are the only ones who cheat cause women do too. I just mentioned my friend earlier in this blog. I seriously hope she heeds my advice and reevaluates her relationship before she walks down the isle.
If you have gotten nothing from this blog take this. If you dont love yourself no one else is going to. If you dont respect yourself no one else is going to.