Somebody Just Like You

I was raised in a traditional southern household with traditional southern morals and values for the most part as far as relationships go. My parents were married for over 30years before my father died. They played the traditional husband and wife role. He took care of the bills and she took care of the house. She was the submissive wife and catered to my dad.
Growing up seeing this showed me this is what a relationship between a husband and wife should look like. Me being a virgo woman I'm already submissive by nature and my upbringing reinforced that in me.
I've always wanted that traditional type relationship. The only problem is when you submit to your mate it should be someone you trust. My exhusband used to take the teachings of the bible and turn them to abuse me. He used to yell at me to learn my role and submit to him. There was but one problem. I didn't trust him enough to lead me.
In the bible it says woman is to submit to her husband but also that husbands should love their wives the way Christ loved the church. Christ loved the church so much he sacraficed his life. My exhusband did not love me in that way which is why I couldn't trust him to submit to him.
Submission to me means he is on his journey and I trust him enough to lead me on mine as well. You cannot submit to a man who you don't trust or who isn't living right.
I've often said I have no desire to wear the pants in a relationship because I look better in a dress anyway. I've often found myself in relationships with men who need someone to take care of them. I have a nurturing nature and a need to care for those around me so I often attract that man.
So what makes me think the "he" I'm with now is the one?
When I get in clean up woman mode he shuts me right down and says "I know you mean well but I got this" and I actually trust him enough to sit down and let him handle it knowing it will be ok. We have power struggles from time to time as I am used to fixing everything for everybody, but he doesn't need me for that. I don't have to be his superwoman and fix his life. I can simply be his helpmate which is how God intended for the relationship between man and woman to be.
It doesn't feel forced. From day one its felt natural to put my hand in his and let him lead. Now I have to just get used to being with someone who isn't so needy. Afterall this is what I always wanted.