While watching Keyshia and Daniel family first my whole twitter timeline was filled with tweets like "I want a relationship like theirs". Why do we always covet someone else's relationship? Today it's Keyshia and Daniel. Tomorrow will be Barack and Michelle and next week we gonna wanna be Bey and Jay. Honestly I can't worry about anyone's relationship except that of my own.
My relationship is not perfect, but none of the ones listed above are. Those couples in the public eye have good days and bad days just like the rest of us the difference is you won't see them discussing the negative and putting it on front street.
I have had people who have been in the same room as me and my man talk about how perfect we are together and how good he is for me. Well that's because I don't go running to my girlfriends complaining everytime he gets on my last damn nerve. And trust me there have been those days. I get on his nerves alot also and I know he doesn't go running to everyone and they mama on those days.
When you have two people who truly love each other and are committed to stickin it out no matter what you can build on that and cling to it on those days when you ain't really feeling each other.
I can say I have stripped down, bared my soul and made all my flaws transparent and he looked at me and said I'm not scared of you. He saw that I wasn't perfect and everyday wasn't gonna be sunny and he sticks by me. As I do him. Is it perfect? Hell naw it ain't its far from it. Anytime you have two people trying to learn how to merge their lives together and be one there will be bumps. Takes years to get that shit right. But we're committed to it and because of that we'll make it. I just realized we speak about 4 different love languages between us and that causes alot of misunderstanding and confusion at times as we are both showing love for the other in the manner of which we wish to receive it. How I wanna be loved and how he wants to be loved are two totally different ways. We'll work that out too. I can honestly say he's my best friend we talk everything thru.
If you put more energy into your relationship instead of coveting the relationships of others you can have that seemingly perfect relationship we see in the media. The type of love our grandparents had.
